If you ask any Bangladeshi person about weddings they will tell you it’s all about food, loudness, laughing, and lots of family! Most Bangladeshi wedding traditions happen in stages. Each family will have their turn to host their own party. Usually Gaye Holud is the first big party!
Gaye Holud: Yellow everywhere!
Imagine a house full of people wearing yellow and orange clothing and a lovely smell of sweets. Gaye Holud means turmeric on the body. The bride will have turmeric paste put on her face, hands and feet to bless her and give a natural shine. This is usually turned into a bit of a game between cousins and friends so no one will be clean for long!
The groom’s family (without the groom) will visit the bride’s house with gifts. Often these will include the bride’s outfit, sweets, henna and 2 decorated fish (to symbolise good luck). The groom will also have their own turmeric ceremony.
Biye: The actual wedding! For traditional Bangladeshi Muslim wedding a Kazi (official marriage registrar) will ask the bride and groom if they wish to marry. Both families will be very attentive and once the paperwork has been signed it is now legal! This can be a serious moment in what can be a very lively event. Many guests will be seen wiping a tear or two.
Bou Bhat: A gentle welcome
Once the big day is over the groom’s family will host Bou Bhat. This is a casual thank you meal. The bride will be introduced to her new neighbours and any relatives she may not have met. She will feel like she is part of the family!
Everyone will be dressed more casually, the music will be quieter and people will finally get to chat. Usually everyone will be happy with a plate of biryani, some sweets to finish and some photos with the couple.
If you are ever asked to attend as a guest from another country don’t worry about getting it right. Just wear something bright, take the sweets with a smile and a little gift. The Bangladeshi hosts will care much more about how friendly you are than how polite you are!
